I've decided to share my wisdom with all of you...what you do with it is up to you.

The start of the story is about a guy who was bored during an ice storm and couldn't leave his house. To help cure the boredom he decided to start talking to a pretty girl on he knew on Facebook. They chatted everyday and even after the sun melted away the ice the relationship continued to grow. They became very close. Pretty soon texts became phone calls and phone calls became hanging out. They were inseparable and talk to each other everyday. They were so comfortable around each other that she could tell the guy anything. Even about her ex boyfriend who cheated on her with her best friend. Everything was going so great that one day the guy decided to tell her how he really felt about her...

He said "You know we have been talking for about 6 months now we so much in common and we know we both really care about each other why don't we start dating it only makes sense right?" She said " I really cherish what we have and I don't want to ruin the friendship." Whoa now all of a sudden it seems that everything the guy has worked for are all about to just go to waste! In the guys mind why wouldn't this work?

So 2 months later she won't hangout with him unless she doesn't have to spend money. The guy almost ran out of gas spending time with her and even though she has a job she can't give him a few dollars in gas money. One day the lightbulb clicked on in the guys mind. He thought to himself "Is she just using me because she knows I'm a nice guy?" The thought sat in the back of the guys mind until one day she never called when she said she would. The guy lost and told the girl what he really thought of her...the end.

What's the point behind this story well it's simple...Girls don't want guys to be nice to them. I put in 8 months of just being there for this girl listening to her problems, comforted her while she cried on the phone, so on. Don't get stuck in the "friend zone" what's the friend zone you ask? Well a friend of mine explained it the best...

"You give her everything a boyfriend would give her but without the commitment and sex that a relationship entails, which leaves her free to pursue casual sex if she wanted it or to date no sex included as much as possible because she has you for the emotional support and the things women crave from men. So when you go away you take this from her it means she either had to ensnare another male to your role which would take too long or she would actually have to get a boyfriend and build a relationship which would also take too long, so the quicker option is to pour honey coated words into your hear giving you hope and making you come back and give her what she craves.

She said she couldn't be with you in that way so take it for what it is, like you said she misses talking to you, she doesn't actually miss you, just misses having someone to pour her sorrows onto, friend zone is the worst place, by moving on and stopping texting her your doing the best thing possible, keep it up, ignore her words."

Couldn't have said it better myself. See what I learned is don't give them everything you got at once. It's like giving a kid a piece of candy. If you give a kid candy everyday for a week being nice when you run out of candy instead of appreciating what you gave them their asking "What the frick man! Where's my candy!?"

If I could describe this wisdom into 1 picture it would be this one...



Every single time Charlie...


Now this is just from my experiences maybe some of you have felt someone who appreciates you for being a good person.

You sure that "dude" isn't girlish himself? Who the hell is going to chat / telephone with a girl and hear all there problems for months and tries to be a nice guy without asking her out for a date.

You can ask somebody out on the first day if you want, there is no point to become all girlish and crap.

Its obvious that the girl wasn't attractive towards this "dude". Or els she would be all over him and even paid for gas etc, and even did go towards him.

The boy didn't got used, he just gave a wrong fibe away.

If you like a girl, just ask her out its either yes or no, then talk to her. So that the stuff is clear for both sides.

That reaction of the girl is clear that she didn't wanted a relationship anyway. So no point chasing it.

Besides that, if a girl is really into you. She wouldn't just talk with you for 6 months.

I dont get those hopeless 'dudes' that do everything for girls in hope they date them.

I would almost think that the dude in question is a "homosexual".

I cant even stand talking to a girl about her crap for 30 minutes lol.

This is why I don't like girls.
They suck(and not even in the good way).

You missed a few lines while you were reading I've been on plenty of dates with her but not gonna get into all the other stuff cause your trollin.

Be glad you learned this lesson now. Girls don't like nice guys until they're all used up and looking to settle down, while assholes always get the girl. You either have to be patient and wait, only to get something that's broken and drained of all its beauty, or become that which you hate to enjoy the good life.

Life's awesome like that.

Fixed for you
20 kamehameha

Yeah, don't say that girls are completely in the wrong here. I just got my heart stomped on by a guy in kindof/sortof/almost exactly the same way. It sucks hardcore. Just deal with it, I guess. I know that's really crappy advice, but sometimes you're your own best friend.

Yeah, this happens all the time. There are some pretty girls that want you to treat them nicely and listen to them but they usually have no idea they're attractive. For some reason, those girls always approach me...

I feel your pain. I've been through the same thing and I know all to well what it's like to be manipulated and used.

Speaking as a woman myself, you shouldn't make harsh generalizations based on this bad experience- not all of us are like that. I probably would've fainted from happiness if the guy who I hung out with and talked to every day had confessed his love for me... unfortunately that never happened.

But I hope that by expressing your emotions here- you feel better now.

This will really come down to age range primarily, of both the male AND the female in the equation. Having plenty of female friends who I've known for 5-10 years now, I can say I've been around long enough to hear many complaints about guys they've gone through - as well as try to give them advice. What really might seem shocking is that girl's aren't typically opening up to, and spilling their guts to the guys they're interested in. They trust you because you're safe - you don't seriously think that they spill all those same intimate deep details to the guys they date, do you?

The longer you've known a girl (or woman), the less likely a romance between the two of you may seem. I've managed to mostly stay out of short-term relationships though my life, but I can't say the same for most of my lady friends. Most of them have had fewer long-terms than me, but a total of 5-10x as many boyfriends (or possible relationship-quality partners) than I have. Help them out, and either swallow your crush so you don't get your hopes up & heart broken, or just go away like all the guys they used to date. When you are the go-to guy for a girl's moral support, and all that's on your mind is sex/relationship with said girl, you both lose. Be a good friend to them, or don't be one at all.

I would say that my stated opinion is valid for highschool & college aged girls, but the smart ones can mature really fast - i.e. the girls who are graduating on time, rather than changing their major again or adding a couple semesters to their plan