Alright so I have been talking to this girl since January we have texted almost every day and we talk on the phone for a few hours normally 2 or 3 times a week and we hangout as much as we can. It got to the point where she tells me everything and she said that's a big deal for her which I get. I take it seriously and we have gotten really close.

So one night we were talking and we started talking about relationships and how we would make a great couple because we are on the same page with everything like morales,religion and all that stuff and we just connect. She said something like she wants someone she can trust and be reliable. So obviously this would be great news for me right? Then about a week later it came up again and she says she couldn't see us together as a couple and honestly that kinda pissed me off. Nothing really happened in between then so she wasn't upset or anything.

So I quit texting her as much still texted just not as much and kept my messages short I just didn't really feel like talking. So I'm kinda getting over it and she told me to call her tonight so I did and we talked for a few hours. We get off the phone she texts me and says how much she missed talking to me and how she doesn't want us to get distant like we did and how I'm such a special person.

So I treat her like she says she wants and its no big deal and I'm not nearly as appreciated but then I get a chip on my shoulder and treat her not as well like any other girl I would talk to and she changes her tune...wth is up with that?

Can someone explain this to me?

I dunno what she wants, but it seems like friendship. If you don't want to give that to her, you don't have to.

Just get it over with and bluntly ask if she wants to be with you or not.

I went through a few of those situations when I was younger and in school, and can recall it being awkward but looking back on it now as an adult, I can clearly see that things would have been so much simpler had I just said something and gotten an answer, and moved on. And looking at the circumstances of some of the relationships, I TOTALLY could have had a couple of the girls that i ended up only being friends with, had I only opened my mouth and let them know that's what I wanted. But, I wasn't one of those fast-moving kind of guys all hyped up on testosterone, so it didn't pan out.

Main thing here tho is, whatever happens, if it's not what you want don't be a jerk about it like some little baby not getting his way. Just accept it and let things unfold as they may.

I think we need an official relationships help thread.

It sounds like she just wants to be friends. If that's not enough for you, move on because unrequited love sucks.

Counselor Chrome, activated. *puts on 80's glasses.

Well, like everyone else said, she might just want to be friends, or maybe she's just confused and is shy to really ask you out. If she said that you would make a great couple, she might be into you.

Counselor Chrome, OFF.

Friend zone sucks. Hit it and quit it.

What you need is a Wingman *trollface*

Nah, seriously, you need to take charge. If you want to be with her, tell her straight up. If she says no, then it's a no. Go after some other hot lady friend.

Yep, she sounds like she wants a nice friend and that's about it. Perhaps she'll end up with a jerk as a boyfriend, which is when a nice friend will come in handy (so she has someone to cry to that her boyfriend is a jerk). It's obvious you don't want to be that guy.

You know what you want out of this relationship and you know what you don't want out of it. So tell her what's on your mind...though don't say something stupid like "I want to be with you and if I can't be, I don't see us hanging out much." It's best to just keep that "what you don't want out of it" part to yourself.

If you tell her what you're thinking and she just wants to be friends, do like you've been doing and loosen your ties. Maybe she'll decide she actually does want to be with ya when she sees that "only friends" isn't what you're feeling. Or maybe not. Either way, you get what you want or get out of Friendsville.

Yes! Don't accept this state! :|