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Help Pimmis get better
Old 03-20-2014, 08:25 AM
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So I recently broke up with my significant other. I don't feel like getting into the details I don't think that's important to anyone besides us.

I'm actually just trying to get my mood up because my schedule demands a lot of attention, and I don't function very well in these conditions. I have spring break coming up soon (this upcoming week), so I was wondering if people could provide me suggestions with how to deal with this. 3DSF is sorta like a family away from home which is why I'm asking

Mind you I've already tried video games, ice cream, kitty cats, music, and reading with little to no effect. I'll probably be up for most suggestions, you know if I'm physically capable of doing them or if certain facilities are within reach.

I just want to try to move on.
Old 03-20-2014, 08:38 AM
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I can only say that I've been in your shoes before bout relationships so I kinda know what you're going through and I hope that you can move on and get better.

The things that I did to get my mind off things were pretty much do a lot of exercise like running,jogging,hiking and bike riding to clear the mind.

Another thing I did a lot was do some community service for example: YMCA,Red Cross etcc... (Me Personally I did community service for marriott and that helped a lot on my job resume)

I also took a dance class(Ballroom Dancing)

Well If I can think of any more things I'll be sure to post them on this thread here and stay strong Blues.

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Old 03-20-2014, 11:43 AM
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Community service is a good idea. Helps get your mind off your own problems and on to those of others. See if you can volunteer at an animal shelter, you'd probably like that. Good luck.
Old 03-20-2014, 01:35 PM
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I'd say anything that feels productive for you, rather than things that would normally be more comforting likes games and your cat and that stuff.
Old 03-20-2014, 02:27 PM
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You should go to a comedy club. Whenever life has me down I always try to find something to make me laugh. I can't really go to a comedy club in this town because I wouldn't know where to find one, but i'm sure someone like you in a big city could definitely locate one easily. Just go, laugh your head off, and forget about everything. Finding something to laugh about has gotten me through some pretty dark places, so I'm sure it could help you out. I know you probably think that you're too bummed out to find anything funny. But trust me, when something is truly funny you'll laugh no matter what.
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Old 03-20-2014, 07:39 PM
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Thanks. I have an exam really soon, so it's nice to see some support to keep my head just a bit clearer.

I'll probably look up community service - I like that idea. I also haven't done much of it in recent times, so it's worth a try. I guess I'll try to keep a progress report my occasionally posting my status here. Hopefully it's not a bother.
Old 03-20-2014, 10:42 PM
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I'd take time this Spring Break to hang out with good friends and try to travel some place new.

Those helped me out.
Old 03-20-2014, 11:02 PM
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I'd take time this Spring Break to hang out with good friends and try to travel some place new.

Those helped me out.
Seconding the hanging out with friends. Though you'll probably want some time alone to cool down, I think getting out with friends will definitely help get your mind off of things better than you'd be able to in solitary activity, and that sort of reminder of the human companionship you have will help make the recovery easier. At least, that's what I would think.

It's a bummer to hear that you're down, but you're strong and I'm sure that in due time this will all be moved past. We're all here to support you!
Old 03-21-2014, 03:15 AM
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I'd take time this Spring Break to hang out with good friends and try to travel some place new.

Those helped me out.
Will also vouch for this idea. Having new experiences with friends will probably be an enjoyable thing.

While it is sad that you have ended a relationship you treasured, you can always reflect positively and appreciate it for what it was.
Hopefully you feel better Pimmis, and we all stand by you ^_^

Actually more of a support but I digress
That comedy club sounds interesting
At this point if you're still reading you should be going out and having fun!
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Old 03-22-2014, 02:56 AM
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Well I'm officially on spring break since I just finished a seminar presentation on anti-wrinkle effects of a hexapeptide.

I'm currently looking into some different volunteer services from Red Cross. I figure I might also try out for First Aid/CPR Certification. Additionally I'm considering work at the animal shelter.

As for friends, I believe most of mine will be going off to different places. I have a visitor, and plan to take her hiking with me sometime this upcoming week
Old 03-22-2014, 04:17 AM
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Im not good with advice. Whenever something like this happens to me it usually ends with me punching a wall. im not great with dealing with my depression....

Just think "What would snail do?" and do the complete opposite

Really though blues youre a really cool gal and I hope you get to feeling better soon : D I wish I could help you but I really cant
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Old 03-23-2014, 03:32 AM
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I know you already tried music but not the way I do music. Ok, I have two suggestions. 1st listen to music that makes you feel sexy. 2nd, sing and dance in public. God knows I can't sing nor dance yet I do it all the time at Costco and Target. Don't be embarrassed to do it, after all it's for fun.

If you would like suggestions or anything just contact me. Love you Blues~
Old 03-30-2014, 11:02 PM
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My spring break is unfortunately at an end. Guess I kept myself so busy, that the break went by really quickly.

Not sure if I mentioned this to anyone, but I share a couple of classes with this person, and I'm really uncomfortable with seeing him in person again. Any advice on how to keep myself calm during class? These are small classes by the way so it's not like I can just hide him from my vision
Old 03-30-2014, 11:13 PM
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My spring break is unfortunately at an end. Guess I kept myself so busy, that the break went by really quickly.

Not sure if I mentioned this to anyone, but I share a couple of classes with this person, and I'm really uncomfortable with seeing him in person again. Any advice on how to keep myself calm during class? These are small classes by the way so it's not like I can just hide him from my vision
Just stare at your teacher in the eyes the whole class.
Old 03-30-2014, 11:20 PM
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My spring break is unfortunately at an end. Guess I kept myself so busy, that the break went by really quickly.

Not sure if I mentioned this to anyone, but I share a couple of classes with this person, and I'm really uncomfortable with seeing him in person again. Any advice on how to keep myself calm during class? These are small classes by the way so it's not like I can just hide him from my vision
Just listen to music with some headphones.
Old 03-30-2014, 11:49 PM
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Focus on your studies, draw little notes (maybe an image relating to the class)for yourself and above all, try to take some deep breaths to calm yourself down.

If anything, try to strike up a conversation with someone in the class.
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Old 03-31-2014, 12:24 AM
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Well ask yourself how much which will he affect you? does he talk to you? Also. this might sound tough. But you can always try to not acknowledge his presence within you class.
Old 03-31-2014, 01:54 AM
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My spring break is unfortunately at an end. Guess I kept myself so busy, that the break went by really quickly.

Not sure if I mentioned this to anyone, but I share a couple of classes with this person, and I'm really uncomfortable with seeing him in person again. Any advice on how to keep myself calm during class? These are small classes by the way so it's not like I can just hide him from my vision
Well, without any details, I'm not too sure how serious your separation was. (Neither do you have any obligation to tell me)

However, I'd advise to just go about your day as normal. You may still have unresolved feelings for him, but just focus on what you came to the class to do so as not to be distracted. Alternatively, you could make other friends in the class if that's an option.

Hopefully he doesn't make the situation any more awkward than it has to be.
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Old 03-31-2014, 08:30 PM
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My spring break is unfortunately at an end. Guess I kept myself so busy, that the break went by really quickly.

Not sure if I mentioned this to anyone, but I share a couple of classes with this person, and I'm really uncomfortable with seeing him in person again. Any advice on how to keep myself calm during class? These are small classes by the way so it's not like I can just hide him from my vision
Get one of those stress balls to fiddle with in class. (They also help with hand cramps)